Monday, June 9, 2008

What Do You Want?

What do you want?

In my coaching practice, I've come to understand this may be the single most powerful question I can offer.

If you're like me, you no doubt catch yourself "raging against the machine" from time to time, complaining about the person who cut you off in traffic, your boss, the governement, the way the kids misbehaved, the credit card bills ... whatever.

There is stuff that pisses you off and so it's natural to want to complain about it.

Yet, the truth of the matter is that the more energy and focus you put into this complaining, the further away you push yourself from whatever it is you really want. As a matter of fact, what you're really accomplishing is entrenching yourself as a victim.

So how can we jolt ourselves out of this downward spiral and get refocused quickly when we catch ourselves doing this?

Simple ... come back this one magical question.

What do you want?

This question is very powerful. It can immediately enable you to shift out of the negativity and place your attention on what's really important to you now ... wealth and freedom, peace, a new car, a new house, more time with your spouse, a life of inspired abundance ... whatever it is that matters most to you.

Now, as you become more focused on what you want, you can picture yourself enjoying those things in your mind. The more you begin to visualize what you really want, the more clarity you are able to begin to find around it, and the further away from the negativity you move yourself.

Notice how this in turn assists you to refocus and begin to draw on inspiration to generate ideas about things that will move you closer to what you want.

It's a powerful technique. Next time you catch yourself raging about everything that's not right, ask yourself what it is you do want and see what happens.

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